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Friday, January 18, 2019
Friday, July 27, 2018
20 physical, behavioural and emotional symptoms of grief and bereavement and how to overcome them – The Amateur's Guide To Death
20 physical, behavioural and emotional symptoms of grief and bereavement and how to overcome them – The Amateur's Guide To Death: It’s a different road for everyone, but these suggestions could help… By Emma-Louise Pritchard The death of a loved one is one of the hardest things an individual can go through, and th…
Tuesday, July 17, 2018
Grief and suffering - a different way to look at the pain of grief
https://www.funeralzone.co.uk/blog/david-kessler
Visit my webpage for help with planning a funeral or memorial.
www.funeralcelebrantsydney.com.au
Visit my website for informaton about planning a funeral and for the opportunity to have me as your funeral or memorial celebrant.
Visit my webpage for help with planning a funeral or memorial.
www.funeralcelebrantsydney.com.au
Visit my website for informaton about planning a funeral and for the opportunity to have me as your funeral or memorial celebrant.
Sunday, July 15, 2018
Anticipatory Grief
http://theamateursguide.com/why-is-anticipatory-grief-so-powerful/
Knowing that a loved one has a life limiting illness, or you may be anticipating a death, is known as anticipatory grief. It is a trying time and understanding why, can help to cope with the powerful emotions it evokes.
Knowing that a loved one has a life limiting illness, or you may be anticipating a death, is known as anticipatory grief. It is a trying time and understanding why, can help to cope with the powerful emotions it evokes.
How to help someone who is grieving
www.funeralcelebrantsydney.com.au
Monday, May 14, 2018
Monday, April 30, 2018
Some ideas for positive, life affirming funeral poems. Some are quite light-hearted, even humorous.
Sometimes its quite appropriate to have a laugh at a funeral or memorial.
Other times, well, sadness means that humour is not appropriate. Perhaps if it was a tragic death, the death of a child or of a young person.
Its important to make sure that the tone of the funeral is fitting for the person being remembered. This is what makes a memorable and consoling farewell for those who loved the one who has died.
Monday, March 26, 2018
Thoughts on loss from Proust
People do not die for us immediately but remain bathed in a sort of aura of life which bears no relation to true immortality but through which they continue to occupy our thoughts in the same way as when they were alive.
It is as though they were travelling abroad. ~Marcel Proust
Saturday, October 7, 2017
Grieving the people we’ve loved and lost |
Grieving the people we’ve loved and lost |
Click on the link above to go to an article on the grief rituals which help in the everyday.The writer looks at how to explain death to a child, according to your own beliefs.
She also describes a number of lovely and helpful rituals which bereaved people have devised and which provide comfort.
Really worth reading.
Saturday, July 22, 2017
An irreverent, humorous poem
This poem was read at a recent memorial which I conducted. The woman who had passed away had an irreverent, cheeky sense of humour. It's good to have a few laughs, as well as tears, as we say goodbye to someone we love.
Pardon Me for Not Getting Up
Oh dear, if you're reading this right now,
I must have given up the ghost.
I hope you can forgive me for being
Such a stiff and unwelcoming host.
Oh dear, if you're reading this right now,
I must have given up the ghost.
I hope you can forgive me for being
Such a stiff and unwelcoming host.
Just talk amongst yourself my
friends,
And share a toast or two.
For I am sure you will remember well
How I loved to drink with you.
And share a toast or two.
For I am sure you will remember well
How I loved to drink with you.
Don't worry about mourning me,
I was never easy to offend.
Feel free to share a story at my expense
And we'll have a good laugh at the end.
I was never easy to offend.
Feel free to share a story at my expense
And we'll have a good laugh at the end.
Facing the Abyss: Planning for Death ~ Pallimed
Facing the Abyss: Planning for Death ~ Pallimed
Click on the link above to read an interesting and thought-provoking article.
Monday, July 17, 2017
An interesting funeral custom
After 72 happy years together, it was a terrible loss for him.
He had spent his last days in a nursing home, and his family told me that the staff there had been lovely, especially the Filipino nurses who did their best to cheer him up, and make his last days happy. Of course he had many visits from his family who all loved him very much. The gentleman loved a good cup of coffee, so the nurses put some coins in his hand after he passed away. They said that it was a Filipino custom so that the deceased could buy a good cup of coffee on his way to heaven. What a great custom!
Monday, July 3, 2017
A Personal Funeral with Elaine Searle - Home
You might like to visit my Facebook page for information about funerals and grief. Click on the link below.
A Personal Funeral with Elaine Searle - Home
A Personal Funeral with Elaine Searle - Home
I am a founding member of the Funeral Celebrants Association and adhere to professional standards in practice and ethics. Contact me on mob. 0402810062, or email at Email Elaine |
Disenfranchised Grief by Doris Zagdanski
About disenfranchised grief
Loss is one of the most common experiences that brings about
grieving, but some types of losses are just
not recognized and so we have to keep them hidden. This means we can’t grieve
about them openly either.
Disenfranchised grief is a
concept that was first described by Kenneth J. Doka in 1989. He defined
disenfranchised grief “as grief that persons experience when they incur a loss
that is not or cannot be openly acknowledged, socially sanctioned or publicly
mourned”.
When does disenfranchised grief happen?
When the relationship is not recognised – such as the
close ties of friends, a secret lover, same sex couples, foster parents,
colleagues, roommates, teenage romance, step parents & step children.
When the loss is not acknowledged – death of an
ex-spouse, miscarriage, abortion, having a disabled child, being an adopted
child, placing a child up for adoption, pet loss, financial ruin, loss of
home/personal possessions, boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, loss of
hair/physical appearance due to chemotherapy or illness, death of a public
figure/personal hero you admired, death that occurs to people you are not
personally acquainted with such as victims of war, natural disasters, crime,
capital punishment, misadventure – that touches you.
When the griever is excluded – thought to be too
young, judged as not central to the relationship, overlooked due to culture,
mental disability or ageing. It could be the loss of access to grandchildren or
extended family because of divorce or conflict.
When the circumstance is taboo – suicide, AIDS, drug
overdose, anorexia.
Sometimes grief can be disenfranchised by well-meaning family
and friends when they set a time limit on your
grief or expect you not to cry or encourage you to ‘move on’ or ‘get over it’.
This can result in the griever feeling more lonely, misunderstood, more
isolated. It doesn’t help when support and comfort that are offered for other
losses, that are perceived to be ‘acceptable,’ are not as readily on offer to
you.
Remind yourself that you are the
best expert on your grief.
Your loss is real, whether or not
other people recognise it.
Your grief is what you say it is,
because you are the one going
through it.
Doris
Zagdanski BA Dip
Ed
Doris Zagdanski is
a leading figure in modern day grief and loss education. Her seminars are
included in vocational qualifications in Allied Health, Counselling and Funeral
Directing. Her books and free factsheets are available at www.allaboutgrief.com.
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